The next time someone wants to write a story about motherhood, they should write about the absolutely unnecessary competition found between mothers. It is insane. And unfortunately it doesn’t look like it will be stopping anytime soon.

The Mommy Wars (or whatever phrase it’s been packaged as this month) do nothing but separate women all needing a support group of some sort for this new phase of their life. Whether its friends, family, co-workers or an online message board, I find it hard to believe a mom could go the first year of motherhood without asking for advice. And if those moms are out there, hats off to you because I find motherhood to be the hardest job I’ve ever had.

I sit here in between phone calls and emails, happy to have healthy children and be a part of this group of strong women called mothers. It’s never been a thought of mine to consider the well thought out choices I’ve made for my family to be fodder for someone looking to judge me. But they are – which is incredibly unfortunate.

There are so many things going on which make it into the “Breaking News” that one would think we would all just be happy our families were safe and sound. But it doesn’t work that way. Maybe these judgmental moms don’t have their TVs on and are suffering from a case of boredom because they also do not subscribe to their local newspaper.

Because if they did, they would realizing having an epidural does not make you less of a mother. We all have to wake up in the middle of the night and change diapers; make sure the water temperature is just right before the babies take their bath and stress at one time or another about dinners for our picky eaters. And if they read what’s happening in their community besides the Arts & Living section, they would probably realize they shouldn’t unfairly judge someone you’ve at the playground on Saturday because you found out she works outside the home during the week.

My life isn’t easy. I don’t believe anyone has an easy life. Whether you are struggling to keep your sanity at home because you have a laundry list of things to do before your children get home from school or you find yourself in the middle of the divorce right after having a baby, we all have things happening in our lives and it’s just incredibly unfair to judge instead of support one another.

I’m guilty of being naive enough to think I could make a personal decision about my body and my children without being shunned. I don’t need anyone to feel sorry for me or my children because I made a choice about breastfeeding or diapering my children in something other than cloth diapers. What I need is to finally hear moms are going to come together and support each other so cases of post partum depression decline significantly. I need to hear moms are being treated the same whether they stay at home or they have a career which requires them to leave the house every day.